Relationships are hard enough, but add on top of that, a terminal incurable disease, and you've got a recipe for what could possibly be disaster!I say possibly because I know people that have been together for years and years even with Pulmonary Arterial Hypertension, and have been able to some how make it.
but it seems to me that most people can't hack their partner, their loved one, with with terrible disease. The divorce rate is high among those who's spouse is ill, with whatever, even if it isn't as life threatening as Pulmonary Arterial Hypertension. I have some ideas why, for me, i think it was selfishness. my x spouse was selfish and wanted a "normal" life not filled with hospital stays and medications, and doctor's appointments. of course, that's not the only reason why we divorced. but i don't want to talk about my personal relationship or lack there of, with my x.
trying to date someone and me having PAH is a trying experience, when do I tell him I'm sick? when do I tell him I have an expiration date? will that be the deal breaker? for these reasons and more, I've not been on a date in a while. i did date for a bit in MD/DC but I doubt I will be here.
Well, first of all, every single person on this planet has an expiration date. And no one knows when their time will be up, terminal disease or not. So that really isn't a good excuse not to date. lol And for me, I am straight up truthful about my condition. Of course, I wear oxygen, so it's not like I can hide it. But I honestly would rather weed out the guys who don't want to deal with someone living with health problems as soon as possible, instead of starting to see someone, and then dropping the bomb, and waiting to see if they'll flee or stay. Of course, I haven't dated in forever, and who knows if I ever will again. I just can't seem to find a guy who actually has the guts to find out what I'm all about, regardless of PH!
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